Adults can prepare children to become helpful bystanders by discussing with them the different ways bystanders can make a difference, and by letting them know that adults will support them, if and when they step forward. Adults can also provide examples of how helpful bystanders have shown courage and made a difference in real-life situations and in their own experiences.
They think, “It’s none of my business.”
They fear getting hurt or becoming another victim.
They feel powerless to stop the bully.
They don’t like the victim or believe the victim “deserves” it.
They don’t want to draw attention to themselves.
They fear retribution.
They think that telling adults won’t help or it may make things worse.
They don’t know what to do.
The effects of Bystanders not reporting the bullying
Pressure to participate in the bullying.
Anxiety about speaking to anyone about the bullying.
Powerlessness to stop bullying.
Vulnerability to becoming victimized.
Fear of associating with the victim, the bully, or the bully’s friends.
